^My Instagram is 18+ due to the content of sex therapy so you need to click this link to access the video.
This post isn’t about travelling, materialism, or showing off. Truth be told, the video looks way more fun than the actual trip (which was amazing), and that’s the norm on social media these days anyway.
The best experiences, friendships, and intimate opportunities come when you stop overthinking and start engaging with life. Your social life isn’t just about fun; the ability to connect with people opens doors, creates opportunities, and makes life lighter.
If you’ve ever wanted to:
✅ Get off the bench and Engage with Life
✅ Surround yourself with kind, like-minded people
✅ Create memories that tell a deeper story and make yourself proud
Then keep reading. All the lessons apply to local North American Life.
As seen in the above table of contents, we will cover 4 major lessons to Level Up these areas.
BTW, the context is a bunch of friends, in similar creative industries, making content in a ‘luxury’ setting. Most of us took turns Infront and behind the camera to support each other. The trip was full of adventure, skits, and creativity. FINE, there was partying too!
This trip wasn’t just about that though—it was about social confidence, authentic connection, and getting comfortable with a better lifestyle, which stops psychological self-sabotage and impostor syndrome.
This is something anyone can do—if they’re willing to step out of their comfort zone.
Lesson 1 – You Have to Put Yourself in the Correct Room
Want to build a better social or romantic life? It starts with showing up—physically and mentally.
So many people hold themselves back:
🚫 You think about reaching out to a friend but hesitate
🚫 You get invited somewhere new but make an excuse not to go
🚫 You stand around in a group conversation but stay quiet
At some point, you have to stop waiting to feel “ready” and just take action. Confidence isn’t something you wake up with—it’s something you build by showing up.
Go where your ideal crowd hangs out. Festivals, sports, nightlife, hobbies, some sort of class, etc. It can literally be anywhere if your target audience is there. Then contribute and build in that social circle.
The people I met on this trip weren’t just randoms. They were like-minded individuals who thrive on ambition, adventure, and connection.
We swipe, we scroll, we double-tap—but how often do we build real, meaningful relationships?
If you want a better social life, you must put yourself in the right rooms.
Lesson 2 – Confidence is Built Through Action & Failing Forward
Fail Forward and do it quick. Find yourself in the chaos.
✔️ Starting conversations, even when it feels awkward
✔️ Take the lead, whether it is planning an outing or making introductions
✔️ Be open to rejection & realize it’s not a big deal.
Social confidence is a skill. It’s not something we’re born with. The more you practice, the easier it gets. Stop over thinking and giving meaning to things that don’t actually matter.
True confidence is knowing you will be okay no matter what.
Lesson 3 – Authenticity Over Perfection
There were some high-status influencers.on this trip that I hadn’t met yet BUT the most charismatic people weren’t the ones trying to impress with stories or social media. They were the ones just being real, living with gratitude, abundance, self-love, and boundaries.
- They were easy to approach
- They laughed freely.
- They didn’t filter their personality to fit in
- They spoke their minds instead of just saying what they thought people wanted to hear
They were ‘being themselves brightly’ and throwing feelers out there to find their type of people.
We all crave authenticity. The modern world is full of AI tricks and social media lies.
If you want deeper relationships, stop performing and start showing up as yourself.
This is not an option; this is the only way to Find Your People. More on this later.
Lesson 4 – Intimacy is in the Small Moments
Despite the glamorous settings, some of the most powerful moments were the quieter interactions.
✅ Catching someone’s eye across the room and knowing that you both have the same sense of humor
✅ Sitting on a terrace, deep in conversation, while the rest of the group is together
✅ The late-night group talks after a long night out
✅ The spontaneous coffee runs that turned into real connections
✅The shared silence while watching the sunrise, knowing you don’t need to fill the space with words.
Too often, we chase excitement when what we really crave is intimacy. We think passion only comes in grand gestures, but the truth is, deep connection is built in the everyday moments—choosing to be present, to listen, to really see and be seen.
BONUS: New Experiences Bring Much Needed Perspective
Hiking through Ibiza’s landscapes, standing on the cliffs overlooking the ocean, flying the drone above the villa—it all reminded me that perspective is everything in life. When you expand your world—by meeting new people or pushing past your comfort zone—you see things differently. You realize that there are so many ways to live happily and are reminded to not take things so seriously. Especially what others may think, which is a prison, you can free yourself from whenever you choose.
> NEXT STEPS
If your social & intimate life isn’t where you want it to be, ask yourself:
✅ When’s the last time I said yes to something new?
✅ Have I reached out instead of waiting for someone else?
✅ Do I make a list of the people I want to get to know better, so I don’t forget?
✅ Am I following up?
✅ Am I showing up as my real self, or am I playing it safe?
In a world where people are more “connected” than ever, it’s ironic how difficult genuine connection is.
This trip was a reminder—life doesn’t wait for you to be ready.
If you want better relationships, start reaching out. Find where your target audience hangs out, how you can contribute, and go there often. Have a light touch.
If you want more confidence, put yourself in new situations and show up authentically. Fail Forward.
If you want unforgettable experiences, say YES and let loose. There is adventure and silliness all around us.
Real Luxury = Abundance of authentic friends & the ability to know you can always find true romance.
Remember, the ceiling of success and happiness, is wayyy higher than you think (perspective), which is a good thing.
If you improve your inner and outer world, which is totally doable, well, you’ll be pleasantly surprised with how much inner peace, connection, pleasure, and accomplishments you end up with.
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