In the previous page, you learned about what I can help you with and what other therapists say about me. On this page, you will hear from my past clients (kind of) and will learn more about my approach and values.
Unlike coaches, licensed therapists are not allowed to share client testimonials due to confidentiality issues. What I CAN do is tell you what I’ve heard over, and over, and over, in the form of a testimonial. #Loopholes The below are real statements that I have heard repeatedly over the years. I combined them here in the third person for the sake of simplicity and confidentiality.
Client Perspectives
It feels so good to talk to someone and actually have a plan!
Always looking forward to our sessions, even the hard ones…I always feel lighter after talking to you
Kevin has the energy and eagerness of someone in their 30’s but also the wisdom of someone much older….you’re very open, the least bias person I have ever met
I have not shared my story with any other therapists but I knew you wouldn’t judge me, lots of therapists say that but I know it was true for you
I love having discussions with you – I feel like I have just been burnt. You backed me in the corner. It’s good….you just made me do a whole round house kick to myself..I can’t believe it…I see it all so differently now..
I like how Kevin gathers all my information and then creates a simple plan that we work on together. He explains everything in easy to digest pieces and then in later sessions, he brings it all back to build upon each other.
Thanks to the tools Kevin gave us, my partner and I are arguing much less and for the first time in years, our intimacy has improved…this was a pleasant surprise!..I feel stronger and more empowered to talk to my partner…I am more relaxed and my partner is really thankful
I like how Kevin politely challenges me but doesn’t push me too hard
I like that Kevin gives me homework (not too much) and then keeps me accountable in a way that is zero pressure and judgement
I like that Kevin always clarifies what I am saying and summarizes it back to me..I feel seen , heard, and validated in our sessions together
I appreciate Kevin’s humility, he emphases that he is just a tool for me, so I feel free to say whatever
Kevin helped me develop a better relationship with all my emotions, including shame. He taught me to see the whole truth instead of just the negative parts. This helped me to actually take the steps on the Success Plan which has improved my life a lot.
Kevin helped me to break a 1-2-3-4-5 year (depending on client) dry spell! He taught me to approach dating in a way where I am way less stressed and create a lifestyle that makes me happier at the same time
I’ve struggled a lot with my identity…I wasn’t aware of how bad my self-esteem was or how little self-awareness I had…Kevin has helped me to find my strengths and confidence…now I have a North Star
It’s weird to me that sometimes sessions are fun, we’re both laughing a lot..but I love that now because it motivates me to attend sessions and take action
I have been to men’s health clinics but it was only after working with Kevin that I understood what was going on. I wasn’t very hopeful when I started but I was fed up before reaching out to him.
I want a family one day..but I was embarrassed to talk about this stuff and it’s been so long…Kevin was so easy to talk to…I felt comfortable telling him everything
I have a good bulls**** detector but you passed, I do feel that my voice was heard and I’m very confident that I found the right therapist for me
Our work together has been very, very effective. I learned more in these intensive sessions than all the books I read and videos I watched.. I don’t like the circumstances that brought us together but the fact that we met now, will change my life for the better…You are providing professional services of incredible value. Thank-you.
I see many therapists as clients and many clients have left their own therapists to work with me. This was not something I ever expected to happen. They enjoy my dad jokes light humor, structured and tailored success plans, and that I actually explain WHY, when I recommend something.
My Approach
I have found that the ‘one trick pony’ doesn’t always reach its destination.
That’s why I put together an eclectic approach customized to each client situation. This allows me to choose tools BASED ON YOU rather than the typical ‘one size fits all’ service.
I find a path to satisfaction that matches your unique blueprint (psychological and sexual), language, hobbies, analogies, history, goals, and values.
Here It Is:
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (Thoughts)
- Narrative Therapy (Stories)
- Dialectical Behavior Therapy (Managing Emotions)
- Internal Family Systems (Identity) *used rarely
- Mindfulness Based Interventions
- Task Oriented (tangible)
- Brief Solution-Focused Therapy (Practical)
I can pull these out of my toolbox, at any given time.
^BUT what the HECK does that even mean? It means working with me is coming to a custom tailor instead of Walmart. No offence to the blue vest, but you know what I mean. You’re not getting the same mass produced product that everyone else is getting ; you’re getting YOUR tailored fit. We focus on YOUR Path to Satisfaction AKA YOUR mountain.
I create a Customized Success Plan that gives us clarity and a trajectory to find solutions step-by-step.
The Values and Principles that Guide My Approach Below
I am Open Minded & Non-judgmental
This is my number 1 strength and value. I don’t see people as good, bad, weird, or normal. We are all complicated humans who live in a complicated world. No one is perfect, least of all me. It’s only your interest to grow that interests me. It’s my job to Serve You on your chosen path, whatever that looks like. It’s our intentions now, in the present moment, that define us. Whatever goals you have, whatever lifestyle you want to live, whatever ‘floats your boat’, I am here to support you.
I Have Seen it All
There is nothing you can share that can surprise me. I work with all people, from all lifestyles, and regularly hear about different experiences, fantasies, and relationship dynamics.
I Believe in Practicality
My clients and I have had therapists who seem to theorize forever. Sessions feel like ‘mental masturbation’ and there isn’t a plan. I’m not here to simply be a soundboard. I’m only interested in talking as it prepares you for helpful action. Research shows that new habits lead to success. Psychology paves the way. As such, I end each session with a little homework (only as much as you can handle) and follow up with future accountability.
I believe in Collaboration
You are the expert of your own life and know what has worked and not worked. Your values, priorities, and strengths are front and center, matched with my skills to provide insight and progress. I’m nothing but a temporary guide on your life journey. I am not important. A decade from now, if all you remember is a short brown guy with funny glasses, that’s great. It’s the lessons and tools that matter.
I am Accepting and Inclusive
As a proud Torontonian, I am passionate about diversity and love to work with people of all genders, races, ages, sexual orientations, and lifestyles. I invite you to express yourself freely in sessions. There is no place in society like the RIGHT therapist’s office. It’s an opportunity to ‘be free’, in an uncensored, unbiased, and emotionally safe environment. This means ranting, swearing, mildly raised voices, crying, and even judgment or challenge (from you) are totally fine.
In many therapeutic models, anger is the next step after apathy, and the first step towards letting go and moving forward. It’s better to unleash yourself in privacy with a professional than to strain your personal relationships and develop the reputation as a complainer or advice seeker with your friends and family.
In a stifled cancel culture environment full of bureaucracy and censorship ; in a modern era of political correctness and double standards, it is my privilege to offer this aspect to you.
# Unconditional Positive Regard
I am Informal
I communicate with easy-to-understand language & talk about the real world. I’ve been a client myself and know how important a comfortable setting is when discussing such intimate topics.
Our time together will feel like normal conversation, with the above structure seeming invisible.
I believe in Remembering
How many insights and ideas have you had that if you only remembered, you would be better off today? I encourage remembering by emphasizing present alertness and anchoring the past when it is helpful. For example, I may ask you to write notes, playfully clap your hands, or to repeat powerful custom phrases out loud. No pressure, you always have the opportunity to pass if you are not feeling it.
I believe in Wholistic Health
I chose social work because there is an emphasis on the wholistic understanding of well-being. The profession focuses on challenges, within the wider context of someone’s life as experienced in the present, past, and future. This is fantastic because it ensures evidenced based treatment plans that are not confined only to a specific area of identity. Human beings are complicated personalities combined with class, race, gender, education, and so much more. Our behavior also changes depending on context. Social work looks at the entire person, and where that person is, rather than overly exposing or analyzing any 1 detail.
I only want to work with open minded clients who have the same values and are willing to invest in their life satisfaction. If that’s you, then …