The Sexual Fetish

 

A sexual fetish describes an experience of arousal that is associated with a body part (not the genitals) or non-living item, both typically unused in sexual activity.

 

Almost anything can be a ‘fetish’ or ‘fetishized’.

It can refer to body parts such as feet or hair. Or bodily fluids such as feces and urine.

 

It can be something a person wants their partner to wear during sex such as a certain material. For example, leather, rubber, footwear, stockings, animal costumes, etc.

 

There are all types of fetishes and the possibilities are endless. Someone may feel that they are abnormal or unconventional but in my experience, many people have a kink but simply don’t discuss it openly.

 

 

Sexual Paraphilias & Erotic Conflict

 

On the other hand, sexual paraphilias refers to an interest that may cause harm to yourself or others, when acted upon. For example, voyeurism, exhibitionism, necrophilia, and pedophilia.

 

An erotic conflict happens when a person feels that their personal belief system is at odds with their sexual desires. This can manifest in many ways including intrusive thoughts, harmful coping mechanisms, confusion, and tension on various relationships.

 

My clients come to me when they feel that there is a problem. They may feel distressed or desperate. This situation goes beyond a form of expression of interesting kink. Perhaps disappearing from a commitment because they cannot control an urge.

 

 

For example, a conflict may keep someone from doing their job or keeping a healthy  relationship. Maybe a doctor who excessively focuses on feet. Or someone becoming obsessed with an article of clothing to the point that they don’t require the presence of their partner.

 

 

Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT)

 

can be beneficial to treatment as it can help people to simultaneously accept dual truths present in your psyche. This approach is a talk therapy that is centered around mindfulness, coping, and digging deep into personal values.

 

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