The “3 Minute Performance Anxiety Protocol” for Men
1 Simple Page designed by a Sex Therapist
This is not a mindset.
It is a 3-minute interruption you can use immediately.
This is a done-for-you protocol written to be followed exactly as written.
Use 3 minutes right before intimacy
This is for men who experience situational performance anxiety and want something confident, structured, and usable in real time.
About the Sex Therapist
Kevin Singh, MSW, RSW is a Psychotherapist and Sex Therapist specializing in intimacy psychology, performance anxiety, and pressure-related sexual concerns. His work emphasizes practical, structured interventions designed for real moments.
The Moment This Is For
You are present.
You want to connect.
Then your attention turns outward.
You start thinking about pleasing the other person.
About not disappointing them.
About not being good enough.
About doing this right.
Then your attention turns inward and shifts into self -evaluation.
You start monitoring yourself.
Your breathing changes.
Your thoughts narrow.
Pressure Begins to Take Over.
You’re flooded with unhelpful or distracting, thoughts and emotions.
You try positive self-talk.
You try to pump up your state.
And just like that, right before intimacy, you find that you can’t get into a Connecting Mindset
^ This protocol is designed specifically for that window.
If this moment feels familiar, this protocol was built for you.
Why Advice Usually Fails in This Moment
Reassurance adds more thinking. Positive thoughts increase monitoring. Trying to relax becomes another task. Insight arrives too late to help. This is not a personal failure. It is how the nervous system responds under pressure. When anxiety rises quickly, simplicity and direction matter more than understanding.
What Changes When You Use This
- Your attention stops collapsing inward
- Your breathing steadies without effort
- The pressure loop is interrupted
- You regain enough presence to continue
What This Protocol Is
You can open it privately in the bathroom or a quiet moment just before intimacy, when your mind starts to race.
When used as written, it interrupts self-monitoring, redirects attention externally, reduces nervous system pressure, and stabilizes attention long enough for connection to continue.
Nothing needs to be added. Nothing needs to be interpreted. The protocol is designed to be followed exactly as written.
That simplicity is what makes it usable when pressure is high.
Why It Is Intentionally One Page
Under pressure, working memory drops. Complexity increases interference. Too many words create hesitation. One page means no scrolling, no decisions, no interpretation, and no effort to remember anything. This simplicity is not minimalism. It is clinical design.
Before continuing, here is a quick check for fit.
This Is For You If:
- You notice pressure or monitoring show up right before intimacy
- Trying to calm down makes things worse
- You want something structured and direct
This Is Not For You If:
- You want a long-term therapy substitute
- You want something to practice over weeks
- You are looking for detailed explanations instead of direction
What You Receive
The 3-Minute Performance Anxiety Protocol for Men (PAP)
The one-page protocol described above, provided as a PDF and a phone-friendly image for quick access in the moment it is needed.
The Companion Guide (a quick, optional read)
The Companion Guide is not used in the moment.
It adds depth and context without complicating the protocol.
It explains:
- Why Kevin created the protocol, drawing from both clinical work and lived understanding of this exact moment
- Simple, plain-language definitions of key terms used in the protocol
- Clear boundaries of when and how to use this protocol so it stays Practial for you
- Why specific design choices were made (wording, sequence, and attention focus), without adding extra steps or instructions
The guide is designed to help the protocol feel grounded, intentional, and trustworthy, so the tool itself can stay simple and effective when pressure is high.
This is a one-time purchase with immediate digital access.
You do not need to prepare, practice, or study anything.
You open it when the moment shows up.
Keep it on your phone so it’s there if you step away for a minute to reset. E.g. in the washroom before returning.
Refund Policy
If this does not feel like the right fit after review, request a refund within 7 days. No explanation needed.
